Sometimes that is a hard lesson to learn.
When Alex was born I was so concerned with his brothers feeling left out.
There is a saying in the world of differently abled parenting and their siblings "if they are special what am I?" As time has passed I see that my boys have learned, and grown to roll with the punches, and to do it with kindness.
No routine necessary.
Teaching them to accept, then act, and continue to move forward just might be the greatest success I have in life. Throw in type one diabetes and we have learned to roll with the punches, and love each other during the process.......