We do it everyday.
We wave at strangers when they let us go first at the intersection.
We do it in passing when we see someone we know at the store.
Waving hello, and goodbye, thank you. It means so many different things.
We do it so much, it can hardly mean anything.
Waving is one of the first things most babies do to communicate.
It is something I have been working with Alex on since he could sit up.
I am confident he has had the motor skills to do this for a while, but I don't think he has felt it necessary when the therapist left his house to wave goodbye, I don't believe he wanted to show he could wave when being tested.
When Alex does something, it has a purpose. It has only his stamp of approval on it. He doesn't need the praise, or the high score. When he accomplishes something for the first time it is always on his terms.
A lesson perhaps? At least for me. Do things, even everyday things with great intention and purpose. Doing things because I chose to, not for praise or recognition.
So this morning as I was backing out of my parking space, and noticed Alex turn to watch me pull away. I gave him a wave and a smile, and with great purpose he lifted his arm and waved it back and forth. He wasn't being polite, he was saying bye mom, see you after school.
This exchange in communication had so much meaning to me because that was a moment Alex chose to say something.
Be still my heart.