Thursday, December 3, 2009

How will it be?

How will it be when people stop telling me you're cute?
When you are too big for a diaper?
When your hand flapping, and head shaking is no longer adorable?
When you are too big for your baby noises?
When your silence makes people wonder?
How will it be when the compliments stop?
No More "What a sweet baby".
How will it be when we get more stares than smiles?
How will it be when you stand out in a crowd?
I wonder now how will it be?
When your brothers move out?
When its just the three of us.
How will it be?

12 comments:

Kelly said...

I wonder the same things. I am trying to stop people from calling Max a baby. He is three. . . not a baby. Ava calls him a baby and she told me god will decide when he is not a baby. OK! Kelly F

Myssie said...

Wondering too...

angie said...

Tears are coming to my eyes! Although Emma is 6, and we are further along in the journey I still have the same thoughts. Sometimes this journey seems to have so many curves in the road.

I've been reading....just not commenting lately. Please know that I think about you and Alex daily!!!

The VW's said...

I wonder and worry about these types of things too. Then, I try to tell myself to take one day at a time and to try to enjoy these days instead of worrying about the future. This is sometimes easier said than done! HUGS!!!

Kelly said...

This is my biggest worry these days. The time when birthday party invitations stop coming and AnnaKate is just so different. I don't want that day to come...

Kelly W.

Michelle said...

oh girl, I think those things ALL THE TIME! Austin is transitioning into some of the things. His noises are no longer cute, the hand flapping gets lots of stares and goofy remarks, and he's wearing the largest size pull up Pampers makes. My current worry is wondering when an older child will start to make fun of him...mean mommy will probably come out and I'm trying to think of smart remarks to return. ;)

Kristi said...

I wonder the same things. And like Kelly said I wish people would stop calling Noah a baby too. He is 3 and a little boy. I wonder too..

Jacqui said...

I try not to think about those things because that future is just too scary. It is hard.

Jacquie said...

My son is 4 and autistic. He's just being potty trained and also makes "noises" and flaps. We are now at the point where people will look. He can be loud. I've been waiting for the first rude comment that I'll have to address. whether in a restauraunt where Ben is disturbing someones meal, or in a sitting area when he goes upside down and accidently kicks someone. It is hard. I think our "normal" at home, where we don't think about it comes to light in public. All we do is lean close and whisper "inside voice", or when he may be flipping around, we laugh and tell him we'll do that later. But... he is still 4. How will this work when he's 10?
What's going to happen the first - fifty times someone is cruel or dismissive of Ben? I don't know. I'll either cry enough tears to fill a tub, or be in jail for kicking the crap out of someone. It's anyone's guess....
I don't know if they have it around you, but AMC theatres do have sensory movies on Sat, Kids can make noise, and walk around etc, and it's very accepted. In case you wanted to tak Alex and the boys to a movie but know he can't handle a reg. theatre.

Donna said...

Oh, how I understand...

How will it be when you are too big for me to carry upstairs?
How will I restrain you when you're older and banging your head?
What will we do when you can't sit up in a chair or booth at a restaurant, but are too big for a high chair?
How will it be when people stop adoring a precious toddler and start avoiding a young disabled person who can't talk or walk?
How will it be?

Prayers for peace - for both of us...
Donna

Brandi said...

I've been pondering the same thing lately. I just found the cutest outfit for Nathan in the "just arrived" section that would actually fit him (9 mos outfit) but I had to say to myself, "Is it really appropriate for him to be in a "baby" outfit like that? He will be 2 in four months. He is so darn cute, but how long will he be cute?

datri said...

My thoughts exactly. I was asking at Kayla's evaluation this week how long she'll get by on "cute".