Friday, July 10, 2009

Numbers, numbers, numbers.......


I have been thinking a lot about all the tests, and scores that are involved with Alex. Tests to show his progress, and to show his delay. According to his tests Alex is functioning anywhere from 9 months- 15 months depending on what skill. What I have learned is that these paper tests miss so much. They don't care that Alex knows when its time to turn the page while we are reading a book, they dont care that he knows how to put his letter magnets on the fridge so they stay. They don't care that he knows what button to press to get a certain sound from his music toys. they don't care that he cries when we close the book at night because he knows its time to go to bed. They want to know if he is walking yet, or putting two words together.

Alex knows so much more than the tests says he knows, so Ill continue to let Alex be tested, so we go through the hoops and motions that get us help, but I don't care about the numbers. I dont think he does either.........................


17 comments:

Alicia said...

Numbers are just numbers and you have the right attitude, my friend. Those tests are only a snapshot in time and they don't show what is even close to the real Alex. I am glad you know the real Alex and how smart he is, no matter what the numbers say. Good for you!

Have a great weekend!

Sara said...

Amen....and that is coming from a teacher.

Terri H-E said...

Right on, sistah! Assessments are a means to a means (services) - Alex determines the "end," ie, smiles on swings, turning his own pages.

Right on.

ANewKindOfPerfect said...

Seriously, you hit the nail on the head with this post! Those tests are made to show their weaknesses, in order to provide them with services. If doesn't EVER show the true Alex. You know all the amazing and incredible things he CAN do!!

Dani said...

Thats what i was thinking the other day with Noelle.
I use to get so sad when she would score low but now I look at it like you do. They are just tests nothing more they do not define my child.
Noelle love to listen and turn pages too.

*HoLLi jO* said...

Going through the same thoughts with my little one.... you are so right in saying that numbers are just numbers... him being alive everyday is the only number I care about! :) Thanks for this post, its nice to know someone else feels the same way as I do! He looks great! Glad hes doing well!

Jacqui said...

I SO agree!! Well said.

Anonymous said...

You know all parents go through this in some way. Some more than others. My daughters, who do not have anything like Alex and Noelle, still had tests in a way. The weight and height saying they were not the right size for their age. The reading scores stating they were not reading at their grade level. All we can do is know that our children are perfect in the eyes of God and to heck with what the scores say. God Bless you Jessica! Alex is perfect and a wonderful little boy!!! Anna

The VW's said...

Numbers don't mean a thang! They don't show you a precious smile or love and they certainly aren't slowing Alex down! Keep showing everyone Alex! Good attitude Momma! HUGS!

Staci said...

You are so right! All children regardless of whether or not they have special needs learn things at different paces. Just like standardized tests in school do not measure how a child does on a day to day basis in the classroom either. I never did well on standardized tests but I was in the top 10% of my high school class. "Tests" measure what someone else thinks is the "norm".

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Kelly said...

I feel the same way my friend! I really just don't care what they say. :)

Kelly W.

Anonymous said...

My daughter is 21 years old and she didn't walk until she was 18 months old. I remember my pediatrician told me to throw the book out that says when and what a child should be doing at what age...he said every child is different and will do things at their own pace! I think your little guy is adorable and I love reading your blog!
A mom who is a mom through adoption and feels so blessed!

Ali Rae said...

I work with a variety of children with special needs and we have to do this assessment about how hard it is for someone to serve another person (communication, motor skills, independence and community living.) I was so sick of this assessment that didn't show what the kids COULD do I took it on myself, and it said I needed regular supervision! I have no diagnosed disability... just a stupid assessment that I am forced to do at work!

Kerri H said...

I will have to agree also..I never pay that close attention to what those tests say..everybody that knows the real Logan knows that he knows more than what he lets on!!! As I'm sure Alex does too!!!Hugs!

Cindy said...

Agreed! I love Alex's haircut...it makes him look like such a big boy!

Have you peeked at the envelope yet? I can't believe you haven't...

Christine said...

What you say is so true...