Thursday, May 14, 2009

Just because you have special needs

doesn't mean you get away with anything and everything.
Tuesday night was the first time I ever have had to tell Alex no. He is full blown mobile now, and wanted to play with a crystal bowl that was a wedding gift. First of all it was heavy, and could hurt him, second of all he could hurt it, and third just because he is SOOOOOO SPECIAL doesn't mean he can play with crystal.
My camera wasn't near so I snapped these with my phone.
Alex would reach for the bowl, and I would move his hand and tell him no no. After about 3 attempts he got what I meant, and laid himself flat on the floor and cried. He didn't scream, it wasn't a tantrum, his heart was broken, once I started taking pictures he sat back up, but his heart was still broken.




poor adorable baby...........

20 comments:

Jess and Krissy said...

Oh, Mama, you broke his heart. It's really mean, but it's so funny when kids do that. He's precious.

Lisa said...

Oh he is so adorable!But oh so true :)I have gone through the same thing, not with Crystal but you get the idea :)Either way he is an adorable little baby.

tm in oh said...

good girl, Mama! we live in a world with bounderies. that's just the way it is ~ luv ya :~)

Finding Normal said...

No is just really really hard sometimes, isn't it? Addison tends to just laugh at me, although she has cried a few times. I relocate her and distract her, but she's very persistent and returns. Stinkers.

Misty Rice said...

Mean mommy..... LOL

Kristi said...

He does look heart broken.. Hope u are feeling ok.

Mama SeWELL said...

Thats just the saddest face ever! Mean ole Mommy! We have entered the tantrum stage at our house and its not very appealing :-)

Marissa said...

Ahhhh, I remember WAAAYYY back in the day when I had to tell Marissa no for the first time. Heartbroken is definitely the right word. Now, it seems like she hears that word more than any other and it makes her either mad or laugh! And it definitely makes her want to do it more!

Poor guy! That last pic just says it all!

Alicia

The VW's said...

AWW, poor Alex! Your Momma is so mean! I would have let you play with that crystal bowl! :)

I always say that if Gavin is ever able to do stuff like this, I will let him do ANYTHING! I suppose my statement would all change once he got hold of a crystal bowl! Good job Momma, Alex is very special, but I suppose you must keep him in line too!

Just'N Angel said...

Mean ole mama...he's so sad...and cute. Those boo boo lips are precious, aren't they!?

Michelle said...

Aww, poor baby, but you are so right, I have to remind myself of this very thing all the time. While Lillian doesn't get into too much "havoc" she is totally obsessed with the toilet now...UGH. that is a HUGE no-no.

Cathy said...

Mean, mommy, mean mommy, just joking! He is so darn cute.

Rebecca Jo said...

Oh, that face.....

Terri H-E said...

Yeah! He gets the word "no" and feels frustrated by it. That's awesome.

No has become a powerful tool in others seeing Addie more clearly. When they see us deny her something, and see that she understands it, but also realized that it's final, they see her in a more accurate light.

No to one thing can end up meaning YES to others. Family now do Addie the respect if giving her boundries. She likes it better that way.

Horray for the mom that can say no, hurray for the boy that is peeved by it!

Brandi said...

Oh Bird, I'm sorry you got your feelings hurt! Your mommy just didn't want you to get hurt. Tell your mommy that you can't wait until you can tell her "no". :)

angie said...

I do understand COMPLETELY....but he is so darn adorable:). Aren't they cute when they cry...I know...kind of warped:).

Melanie said...

aw......poor guy......give him the bowl!!!

JK- but don't you feel sorry for him!?!?

ANewKindOfPerfect said...

Oh, I can totally remember the firstd time I had to tell Peanut NO, and mean it! She got her feelings hurt big time. Big pouty lip, alligator tears, the whole deal. It's quite a developmental milestone when we have to tell them no, and they actually understand what we're telling them!! :)

Tarah said...

Okay that is too cute, glad he didn't get hurt.

Jacqui said...

I am amazed at how similar he looks to my Matt when he cries...that sad mouth, and holding his hands to his head. Exactly the same. Sweet little guy. Its sometimes hard growing up :)